Remembering that the Law of Attraction is always at work in our lives, we can begin to take some personal inventory about where we actually are in relation to where we want to be when it comes to finding that right person and relationship. Manifesting our desires begins with clarity, not only about what it is that we want in a partner, but also clarity about what areas of ourselves may be keeping us from manifesting this person in our life.

What I often see in my coaching practice is that instead of people focusing on what they do want in an ideal partner, they spend their time focusing on what they don’t want only to have more of what they don’t want continuously show up. This is why clarity is crucial as the first part of the manifestation process because clarity leaves no room for confusion. People who find that they are not manifesting the right person in their lives may also find that they have been putting out unclear messages, therefore, getting unclear results.

One should also notice if he or she is operating from limiting beliefs or fears around finding the right person as this is something they may not even be aware that they’re doing. Remember that the Law of Attraction is creating our current reality, whether we’re doing it consciously or unconsciously, so better to operate from a conscious mindset than to allow those unknown factors to choose for us.

Another thing to watch for is how you “feel” about meeting the right person. Are you happy and excited about the process or does it feel like a lot of hard work and a chore? The higher your vibration about the process, by making it a fun and joyful experience, the easier it will be.

So if you are someone who is interested in attracting the “right” person into your life, then please go through the questions below to better understand yourself as you begin this journey.

Start by asking yourself:

~ What do I want?
I suggest you get very clear about everything you want in this person, what the specifics are including what you want emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. Focus only on what you want, instead of focusing on what you don’t want. I suggest you write these things down on paper because writing things down makes them very real and gives them solidity.

~ Have I spent time with myself discovering how I am growing in ways that will prepare me to have the relationship I desire?
In other words, have you done the transitional work first to be ready for the relationship you want to manifest? If you are aware of the areas within yourself that need some work, have you taken the steps necessary to correct those things? If not, what steps can you take now to do so?

~ What fears do I have around manifesting this person in my life?
Realizing that you have underlying fears about finding this right person can be very liberating because then you can do something about them. Examples of fears one might have are, “love is painful”, “I am afraid of being hurt again”, “nobody will ever love me until I lose this weight or find a better job” – you can fill in the blank. These fears place an energetic field around you that says, “I don’t really believe I can have what I want” or “I’m not worthy of love”. And because fear is an energy, as you send out this vibration (knowingly or unknowingly), that is what comes back to you. This process requires that we be very honest with ourselves and if needed, take the steps necessary to become a vibrational match to what and who we want.

Remember, the biggest steps we can take are becoming conscious of the thoughts we are thinking and therefore the energy we are sending out. Then, we can make corrections to those things energetically and emotionally to manifest what we desire.

There are many types of coaches that are experts in various fields: Executive, Business, Career, Relationship, Spiritual, Leadership, Success, Performance, and so forth. I, for example, am a spiritual Life Coach utilizing the Law of Attraction and Dreamtending techniques.

If you have never considered a coach to enhance your business and personal life, then now is the time to get started.

“Only from the heart can you touch the sky.” Rumi

A life coach will help you identify and transform areas in your life that are calling to you for change.  A coach partners with people in order to resolve personal, emotional, behavioral, spiritual and lifestyle issues with the ultimate goal being to help individuals develop internal and external structures that allow them achieve success and to increase their potential by expanding their sense of what is possible. Coaches encourage individuals to develop the necessary skills, attitudes and knowledge that will help them develop action plans to meet goals. In the coaching process coaches are seen as collaborators that work with the individual by tackling obstacles such as negative belief systems,  time management, organization, problem solving and navigating through the learning curve by using support, encouragement, teaching skills and goal setting. Ultimately, coaching is about discovery, awareness and choice.

During weekly one-on-one coaching sessions, clients start by identifying what is most important to them, then utilizing Law of Attraction principles and visualization processes, align their thoughts, beliefs and actions accordingly.  A coach provides daily accountability for simple action steps which increase the client’s results exponentially. In order to manifest a life one truly loves and is passionate about, one must get detailed clarity on their values and connect to their feeling of purpose.  This then enables more deliberate and consistent choices with actions that then support the client in living the life they desire.  Life coaching offers a proven means for creating more peace, balance, joy, energy, abundance, clarity and action in all areas of your life.

If you’re wondering about what kind of people work with life coaches, the list is endless.  A few examples of people who typically work with a life coach include business owners, corporate executives, entrepreneurs, solo-preneurs, professionals, athletes, parents, people in transition or who want more from their lives, celebrities and more.  Regardless of your professional or personal place in life, clients all have something in common: they are all intelligent, resourceful and conscious minded individuals who want more out of their life, and are willing to take the steps to do so.  Celebrities such as Oprah Winfrey, Madonna and Lance Armstrong routinely hire life coaches to help them be at their peak performance.

“You cannot have a happy ending to an unhappy journey”  Abraham Hicks

Most often, people hire a life coach because they want more of something in their life (love, happiness, confidence, self-esteem, success, freedom, abundance, a new career, health and wellness, a more positive outlook, etc.) and/or less of something (fear, stress, procrastination, frustration, anxiety, unworthiness, powerlessness, overwhelm, feeling unfulfilled, etc.)  In my practice, I often encounter people whose dreams are showing them where they are unhappy or in desperate need of change, but they have no idea about how to change their situation without external support. This is where life coaching comes in, because an outside expert can help them in ways they would not be able to see for themselves in a very supportive, empowering way. A coach will work on belief systems that may be holding you back, patterns that don’t serve you, be a kind constructive mirror and challenge you to achieve your highest potential.  And because coaching can be done over the telephone, a coach can work with someone located anywhere in the world.

”I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.” Charles Swindoll

When you hire a life coach, you are paying for an accountability partner, information, new ways of perceiving things, support, collaboration, energy, empowerment, creativity, availability, advise, strategies and planning. Using the Law of Attraction, you are also paying for a spiritually based system that helps transform the way you think about things, incorporating processes designed to shift you vibrationally from what you don’t want, to what you do want so that you can immediately begin to see positive changes in your life.  Life Coaching is a results-based interaction whereby the Coach is able to tap into the inner wisdom of the client to answer many of their own challenges and also provides a reflection so that the client can see how he or she may be thinking that is holding them back from what they truly desire.

The kind of coach you hire depends on the results you are looking for.  If you are looking to increase sales, you will most likely want to hire a business coach, if you want to run your business more effectively and efficiently, you will most likely want an Executive or Leadership Coach.  If you want to manifest a life partner or improve your current relationship you will probably want a relationship coach. However, many coaches are fluent in many areas within their practices.  You want to look for someone you trust and who you feel very comfortable with and who demonstrate innate qualities such as sensitivity, empathy and intuition. Indicators that you have found the right coach include someone that will help you have enough energy, happiness, money, wonderful relationships, joy and the feeling of well being that gets you easily through your days.  You also want to find someone who will help hold you accountable for the intentions you have set for yourself and keep you on target to achieve your personal and professional goals.  Finally, a life coach should help you experience joy in your day-to-day life while you are creating your ideal outcome.

If you feel that its time for you to start living the life you desire, then I encourage you to contact me to discuss coaching. If I am not the right coach for you, I have many affiliate coaches that I can refer you to for your specific needs.

For more information, I can be contacted at Bambi@BambiCorso.com.

One of the very first questions I receive from people interested in dreams is, “I dreamt that… (fill in the blank), what does that mean?” We are conditioned to believe that our dreams are meant to be immediately interpreted, that they “mean” something if only we could figure out what that was.

In working with clients over the years, I find that the best way to work with dreams is to develop a relationship with them. Instead of rushing to find the meaning of a dream, it is important to take our time and get to know our inner landscape and imagery. Just as it can take years to truly know someone, the same is true for working with our dreams, and even then there is always more to learn. Our responsibility in the partnership is to get to know our dream images, to stop and question, to pay attention, to open ourselves and listen, to trust, and to develop communication with them for the long haul. Dreams are the storytellers of our lives, slowly sharing one paragraph at a time in symbolic language, offering invaluable guidance each and every night.

So let’s prepare for them just as we would prepare for a date with a special person. We start by setting our intentions to remember our dreams and decide what it is we want to know about them. Then, we invite them in by setting a notebook and pen by our bedsides awaiting their visitation. We can light a candle, read a poem, smell a flower, and make going to sleep a gentle ritual into the deeper realms of who we are. Let’s take ourselves on a Dream Date and be sure to write down all the details we can remember of the evenings unfolding story, whether we had a great time or felt disappointed. This is where we begin to cultivate our relationship with our own dream imagery.

The healthiest relationships are those in which others support us in our blossoming. Dreams offer us this gift, for the betterment of who we are, and who we want to become. All we have to do is say, “yes.”

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