It took many years for me to completely understand what this meant, but when I did, I realized the past is definitely behind us and we have the ability every moment of every day to decide how we want the rest of our life to be.

When I started taking 100% responsibility for my life, I realized I could not blame anyone or anything for my circumstances. This was a turning point, for I truly understood that I had so much more power than I ever realized, power to be what I wanted to be, to do what I wanted to do, and the power to choose how to use each moment.

Taking responsibility for our lives means we can no longer place blame for how things have turned out, or for the things we have or have not done.  It requires that we connect with the authentic part of ourselves in order to live a purposeful life.  We are 10% what actually happens to us and 90% how we respond or react to what happens.  In every moment we have a choice; respond or react, be kind or unkind, tell the truth or tell a lie, be loving or hateful, appreciate or take for granted. These are all conscious choices.

Part of conscious choice and authenticity is also choosing to begin doing something you have always wanted to do, to live out a dream or pursue a calling.  Everyone has something they long to experience and many of them develop and live by reasons for why it hasn’t happened yet. They may be waiting until they get married or divorced, until the kids are grown, until they change jobs, until there’s more money coming in, until they have more free time or whatever it is that keeps them from living their dream.  Why put off until the next moment what you could start doing right now? Today is the first day of the rest of your life, so don’t allow yourself to put off doing something that can bring you tremendous joy right now.  All it takes is one small step towards the direction of your dreams to start participating in your life in a new and empowered way.  Choose to take responsibility for who you are and who you want to be, and you will begin to see immediate results.  For example, if you have always wanted to work with animals, start by volunteering one hour a week at a local animal shelter. The idea is to choose a direction toward being true to yourself.

If you want to lead a more peaceful life with less conflict, when the moment comes that you are faced with conflict, make a peaceful response your course of action. Life is about deliberate choices. We can’t always control what happens to us or the external circumstances, but we can control how we respond to them, and who we are as we move through them. Life is all about choice as Rush says so wonderfully in their song Freewill, “If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.” Remember, today is the first day of the rest of your life, so start living the life you want now.

We are always broadcasting (Being Responsible for Our Awesome Destiny)

Imagine that you are the sole owner and operator of your very own radio station but the radio station is YOU, and the radio station is always broadcasting because that’s what radio stations do. And you’re not the only one, there are billions of people in the world and every one of them has their own thoughts, feelings, beliefs and actions.  Therefore, every person is constantly sending out a broadcast through their own radio station of those vibrations and either drawing in or pushing away situations, people and things that they want.  As the owner and operator of your radio station, you are completely responsible for the transmissions you send (or the music you play).

Playing with an Abraham-Hicks quote, I reworded it a little to apply it to this idea, “As you “think” you broadcast, as you “broadcast” you attract, as you “attract” you receive.”

Who is tuning into your broadcast?

“Like attracts like”, meaning that whatever you are putting your attention on through your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and actions is what you are broadcasting through your radio station. No one else can send out a broadcast on your behalf, you are the only one responsible for what your station broadcasts. And whatever you broadcast is attracting an audience or result with the same frequency or vibration. For example, people who want to listen to classical music are not going to tune into a hard rock station.  If you want to attract classical listeners, start by broadcasting classical music.

Successful radio stations know their audience and design their station around the likes and dislikes of those desired listeners.  They broadcast very specific information, music and advertisements because they know who they want to tune into their broadcast. This is called deliberate creation. But creation happens whether it’s deliberate or not, so it’s important to stay mindful of what we’re broadcasting.

Fine-tune your frequency

If you want immediate feedback as to whether your broadcast is working towards your desire, just look at your results. Do you have what you want?  Are you happy? Are you experiencing joy? Is your life going where you want it to go?  If not, chances are your broadcast is not in alignment with what you truly desire, or you may be focusing on what you don’t want versus what you do want. From here, you can make changes and adjustments to your broadcast so that you are in alignment with what you want.  And remember, we cannot change other people; we can only change ourselves, so don’t try to change the “listeners”, because we all know that doesn’t work!

As the deliberate creator of your own life, practice broadcasting what you want to attract and you will begin drawing back to you more of the same.

You might hear yourself saying things like this,

~ I just want to stay home but I have to go to the store today.

~ I have to go pick up the kids from school.

~ I’m so tired but I have to cook a good meal for my family tonight.

~ Ugg, I have to go to work/school today.

~ I have to do my homework/chores before I can do something for myself.

~ Another day and I have to do the laundry, empty the trash, pull the weeds, pay the bills…

And on it goes.

Well, I have a suggestion for you. Stop doing things you “have to” do. Just stop.  Stop right now. Seriously.

I know what you’re thinking, “Has she completely lost her mind? I can’t stop doing all these things I have to do!”

The truth is, I’m going to suggest a very simple tool that will immediately change your perspective and give you a new set of eyes in which to see all of your “have to’s”.  Are you ready?

It’s this simple, replace the words “I have to” with “I get to”.

~ I get to go to the store today.

~ I get to pick up the kids from school.

~ I get to cook a big meal for my family tonight and it’s going to take hours.

~ I get to go to work/school today.

~ I get to do my homework/chores before I go to sleep tonight

~ I get to do the laundry, empty the trash, pull the weeds, pay the bills…

All around the world there are people who would do almost anything to “get to” do any of things you feel you “have to” do.

Gratefulness and appreciation are among the highest vibrational emotions we can experience.  So the more we can be grateful for the things in our lives, the more things to be grateful for start showing up. Begin to count your blessings and be grateful that you are able to do these things… that you get to do these things.

Just try it out for a week and see what happens. I’ll bet you’ll find that these things are not nearly as overwhelming and in fact, you’ll actually start enjoying them a lot more.

I knew that if I waited for whatever it was I was working on to be perfect then I would never actually complete it. I had to get out of my own way and just do it. You see, perfection is a word that goes against the action of implementation and allows us to procrastinate instead of allowing ourselves to be in motion and be part of the momentum of life living itself. And perfectionism has a payoff. It means I never have to put myself out there for fear of judgment from others or even from fear of success.

To be honest, perfection isn’t even a word that should be in our vocabulary. It implies the unachievable. There is a certain kind of tension between the opposites when it comes to this word because nothing will ever be perfect and yet everything is perfect just the way it is. The ideal way is accepting and appreciating things exactly as they are.

The beauty in taking imperfect action is it allows us to be on the journey of becoming instead of seeing a destination point that is far from our reach today. To apply imperfect action immediately brings us one step closer to that destination by just being and doing.

Here’s a great quote that compliments this idea using human relationships as the example:

“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” ~Sam Keen

And so it is with everything in life.

If you find yourself challenged with overcoming perfection, let me share a few suggestions to get you moving forward:

Imperfect Action is Better than No Action
Taking imperfect action propels us into the next step of our life, it allows for things to move forward, to gain momentum and it allows us to be present and active in the creative process. So don’t wait for the perfect idea, the perfect time, the perfect person or the perfect scenario, just do it, get it out there knowing that anything you do can be improved on or tweaked at a later time if necessary. If you don’t put something out there first, then nothing will happen.

“Done is Better than Perfect” ~Scott Allen
Remember that life is happening all the time, it does not stop, it is constantly evolving and changing. Share the passion of who you are and what you do and people will feel that and appreciate your efforts and your courage. See what happens by putting it out there, try something out and let it be an ongoing part of the process and not the end of it.

Confidence is Built by Taking a Step at a Time, Even an Imperfect One
Like anything else, confidence is built one step at a time. By taking action in any form, we are taking steps towards our fullest life, our dreams and our future. You will be surprised at how much stronger and more confident you will feel in yourself just by taking action steps, even imperfect ones.

Celebrate Your Successes
In an effort to make things perfect, we forget to celebrate the little things that we accomplish. Instead of focusing on what things didn’t work, bring your focus to the things that did work and feel good about those things. Celebrate every single success with enthusiasm!

Are you Ready to Take the Next Step?
If you’re a perfectionist and have something you have been putting off doing or creating, then I encourage you to make a decision to get it done, now, and then share your story with me here on my blog to inspire others to do the same!

I believe in you! Now just do it!

It’s one of those little phrases we get in the habit of saying to each other as a way of sending along our best wishes for someone’s success. But in reality, “luck” has nothing to do with it.

So many of us have been taught that luck is somehow a reward for good behavior or hard work, or that we receive luck as a matter of fate.  We wish each other luck in everything from winning a competition to scoring the right numbers on a slot machine or landing that perfect job. However, luck suggests coincidence or chance, when what has actually happened is that we focused our vibration and attention on something that brought us right to the place we were meant to be. So, regardless of where we believe luck plays a part in our day-to-say life, it’s important to understand how the Law of Attraction works in relation to our belief about luck.

The most important thing we can do is take full responsibility for the fact that we are the deliberate creators of our own lives. And as deliberate creators, we are constantly creating our reality by the thoughts we think, the beliefs we hold, and the vibrational set point we find ourselves at because deliberate creation is deliberate vibration. If we know what we want to create, have complete clarity about the outcome we desire, and take the time to align ourselves with that outcome, then luck transforms into an act of manifestation, and not an act of divine reward. You see, the Universe bringing us what we want is not so much an answer to our prayers as it is being in complete vibrational alignment with what we want because what we think about expands, whether it’s what we want or what we don’t want.

Abraham-Hicks says, “We would say, someone 100% of the time connected to Source is really lucky.  And what we mean by that is that there is no chance.  Arbitrary things don’t happen.”

So how do you begin to prime yourself for this kind of connection to Source?  You can begin by asking yourself a series of questions to see where your mindset may or may not be holding you back. I suggest you take out a piece of paper and write down your responses.

~ Am I completely clear about what I want? If not, how can I get clear?

~ How might my mindset be contributing to manifesting (or not manifesting) what I truly desire?

~ Can I actually see and feel myself receiving this desire?

~ What one thing can I do to take a step in the direction of my desire today?

~ How do I see the Law of Attraction playing out in my life right now?

~ Do I see a limiting pattern in myself? How does it do disservice to me?

~ Do I feel like a victim to my circumstances?  If so, what small steps can I begin to take to take full responsibility for where my life is and where I want it to go?

When you have answered all of these questions, the next step is to see what actions need to take place in order to bring you one step closer to your desire and this is where a Life Coach comes in. A Life Coach can help you work through any limiting beliefs and patterns that are not serving you so that you can start living the life you truly desire.

So now I wonder, “What can I say to someone instead of good luck!”? I came up with a few and also asked around for some suggestions. Here’s a few we collaboratively came up with:

~ Good manifesting!

~ Onward deliberate creator!

~ Give it your all!

~ Go for it!

~ Make it happen!

~ May the force be with you!

~ Believe in your success!

~ Expect success!

If you have any “empowerment phrases” you would like to share, please post them here on this blog to share with everyone!

I will end by leaving you with this famous quote, “I am the master of my fate; I am the captain of my soul.”  ~William Ernest Henley

Good manifesting!

Each of us throughout our lives has encountered someone who is troublesome or difficult to be around. They may be fighting addictions or anger issues. Perhaps it’s someone at work who you just can’t seem to get along with or a family member who breaks all the rules and is hard to deal with.  This may be anyone, a spouse or loved one, children, parents, friends, co-workers or  someone you love but you just don’t know how to be with them.  These are people who are painful to be around, or who cause you a lot of anxiety and struggle. You may even be that person to other people.

In his CD set titled, “The Secrets of an Inspirational (In-Spirit) Life”, Dr. Wayne Dyer shares the following story originally taken from a book called “Contact, The First Four Minutes” by Leonard Sunin (now out of print), about a tribe called the Babemba or Bemba, who make their home in an area of Africa that includes Zambia and the Congo.  The Babemba tribe of southern Africa has a social structure with an elementary criminal code. Their close community living makes harshness unnecessary. A visitor was deeply impressed by the tribe’s handling of antisocial and/or delinquent behaviors, which are exceedingly infrequent.

As you read the following, just bring to mind this difficult person or people in your life in which you want to be a source of inspiration and understanding, or who you just want to know how to be with:

“In the Babemba tribe, when a person acts irresponsibly or unjustly, he or she is placed in the center of the village, alone and unfettered. All work ceases, the entire village gathers around the accused individual, then each person of every age begins to talk out loud to the accused. One at a time each person tells all the good things that the one in the center ever did in his or her lifetime.  Every incident, every experience that can be recalled with any detail and accuracy is recounted. All positive attributes, good deeds strengths and acts of kindness are recited carefully and at length. No one is permitted to fabricate, to exaggerate or to be facetious about the accomplishments or the positive aspects of the accused person.  The tribal ceremony often lasts several days, not ceasing until everyone is drained of every positive comment that can be mustered.  At the end, the tribal circle is broken, a joyous celebration takes place, and the person is symbolically welcomed back into the tribe. The necessity for such ceremonies is rare; it only occurs once in every 4 or 5 years.”

When we change our point of focus as the Law of Attraction states, we begin to open up to opportunities otherwise unseen.  This way of working with a difficult person in your life is a beautiful example of unconditional love.  What would it look like if you took this practice and applied it to your own life?  How might your relationships change? What possibilities could this type of love and caring open up?  We will only know the truth of this by doing it within our own lives.  Here is an opportunity to see with new eyes, and hear with new ears.  This practice is called many things, and much like a Gratefulness Journal, allows us to put our focus on what we appreciate, and what we feel grateful for.

So let’s celebrate the goodness in all the people we come in contact with.  Let’s allow people to be exactly who they are while being an inspiration to them by our ability to see the brightest parts of their being.  Just as we cannot know others’ reason for being, neither can people know ours.   Coming from a place of love, kindness and appreciation, we allow others to blossom. We can even apply this process to people all over the world, people whose cultures we may not understand or agree with.  Just imagine what it would feel like, if instead of being judged and punished, you were loved and appreciated, and how that might change your entire life. Be that gift to someone else starting now by opening your heart and sharing it.

There are many types of coaches that are experts in various fields: Executive, Business, Career, Relationship, Spiritual, Leadership, Success, Performance, and so forth. I, for example, am a spiritual Life Coach utilizing the Law of Attraction and Dreamtending techniques.

If you have never considered a coach to enhance your business and personal life, then now is the time to get started.

“Only from the heart can you touch the sky.” Rumi

A life coach will help you identify and transform areas in your life that are calling to you for change.  A coach partners with people in order to resolve personal, emotional, behavioral, spiritual and lifestyle issues with the ultimate goal being to help individuals develop internal and external structures that allow them achieve success and to increase their potential by expanding their sense of what is possible. Coaches encourage individuals to develop the necessary skills, attitudes and knowledge that will help them develop action plans to meet goals. In the coaching process coaches are seen as collaborators that work with the individual by tackling obstacles such as negative belief systems,  time management, organization, problem solving and navigating through the learning curve by using support, encouragement, teaching skills and goal setting. Ultimately, coaching is about discovery, awareness and choice.

During weekly one-on-one coaching sessions, clients start by identifying what is most important to them, then utilizing Law of Attraction principles and visualization processes, align their thoughts, beliefs and actions accordingly.  A coach provides daily accountability for simple action steps which increase the client’s results exponentially. In order to manifest a life one truly loves and is passionate about, one must get detailed clarity on their values and connect to their feeling of purpose.  This then enables more deliberate and consistent choices with actions that then support the client in living the life they desire.  Life coaching offers a proven means for creating more peace, balance, joy, energy, abundance, clarity and action in all areas of your life.

If you’re wondering about what kind of people work with life coaches, the list is endless.  A few examples of people who typically work with a life coach include business owners, corporate executives, entrepreneurs, solo-preneurs, professionals, athletes, parents, people in transition or who want more from their lives, celebrities and more.  Regardless of your professional or personal place in life, clients all have something in common: they are all intelligent, resourceful and conscious minded individuals who want more out of their life, and are willing to take the steps to do so.  Celebrities such as Oprah Winfrey, Madonna and Lance Armstrong routinely hire life coaches to help them be at their peak performance.

“You cannot have a happy ending to an unhappy journey”  Abraham Hicks

Most often, people hire a life coach because they want more of something in their life (love, happiness, confidence, self-esteem, success, freedom, abundance, a new career, health and wellness, a more positive outlook, etc.) and/or less of something (fear, stress, procrastination, frustration, anxiety, unworthiness, powerlessness, overwhelm, feeling unfulfilled, etc.)  In my practice, I often encounter people whose dreams are showing them where they are unhappy or in desperate need of change, but they have no idea about how to change their situation without external support. This is where life coaching comes in, because an outside expert can help them in ways they would not be able to see for themselves in a very supportive, empowering way. A coach will work on belief systems that may be holding you back, patterns that don’t serve you, be a kind constructive mirror and challenge you to achieve your highest potential.  And because coaching can be done over the telephone, a coach can work with someone located anywhere in the world.

”I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.” Charles Swindoll

When you hire a life coach, you are paying for an accountability partner, information, new ways of perceiving things, support, collaboration, energy, empowerment, creativity, availability, advise, strategies and planning. Using the Law of Attraction, you are also paying for a spiritually based system that helps transform the way you think about things, incorporating processes designed to shift you vibrationally from what you don’t want, to what you do want so that you can immediately begin to see positive changes in your life.  Life Coaching is a results-based interaction whereby the Coach is able to tap into the inner wisdom of the client to answer many of their own challenges and also provides a reflection so that the client can see how he or she may be thinking that is holding them back from what they truly desire.

The kind of coach you hire depends on the results you are looking for.  If you are looking to increase sales, you will most likely want to hire a business coach, if you want to run your business more effectively and efficiently, you will most likely want an Executive or Leadership Coach.  If you want to manifest a life partner or improve your current relationship you will probably want a relationship coach. However, many coaches are fluent in many areas within their practices.  You want to look for someone you trust and who you feel very comfortable with and who demonstrate innate qualities such as sensitivity, empathy and intuition. Indicators that you have found the right coach include someone that will help you have enough energy, happiness, money, wonderful relationships, joy and the feeling of well being that gets you easily through your days.  You also want to find someone who will help hold you accountable for the intentions you have set for yourself and keep you on target to achieve your personal and professional goals.  Finally, a life coach should help you experience joy in your day-to-day life while you are creating your ideal outcome.

If you feel that its time for you to start living the life you desire, then I encourage you to contact me to discuss coaching. If I am not the right coach for you, I have many affiliate coaches that I can refer you to for your specific needs.

For more information, I can be contacted at Bambi@BambiCorso.com.

The truth is that dreams come to us every night to help us work out issues from the day, give us guidance and to help heal us on deeper, more spiritual levels. As you continue to pay more and more attention to your dreams, the more they reveal to you about your own psyche, state of mind, belief systems and how you truly feel about things. In addition, dreams come to inform us about our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well-being. Working with the Law of Attraction, dreams allow us the ability to move into a deeper, feeling state. And, as we know, it is that emotional guidance system that helps us realize whether we are moving upstream, or going with the flow in our lives.

If you have an interest in working with your dreams, one of the most important things required of you is your commitment to the process. You will be making an investment in yourself, so be prepared to find some extra time in each day to dedicate to your dream life. In getting started with dream work, it is very important to keep an open mind, and to be patient with yourself. Sometimes it takes a while to train yourself to remember your dreams, but that is not always the case. In order to start remembering your dreams, or just to have better recall of them, following are some suggestions that you may find helpful:

• To allow ourselves the delight of paying attention to our dreams, we need to first shift our perception about dreams. Create a sense of adventure within yourself as if you are embarking upon a new journey, and be willing to see undiscovered parts of yourself.

• Choose a special dream journal and pen that will be used only for the purpose of writing down your dreams. This kind of intention sets the stage for your dreams to be remembered as they are given special care and attention. And you will find that the more attention you give to them, the more often they will be remembered.

• Keep your dream journal open with your pen nearby and a flash light by your bed. This will keep your unconscious and conscious mind reminded that you want to remember your dreams. As you fall asleep every night, create intention by telling yourself that you will remember your dreams in the morning. Repeat this a few times, as it will sink into your subconscious and work with you to remember your dreams.

• Basic health measures can help you in remembering your dreams. It is important to eat a balanced diet, full of vitamins and nutrients to help keep you mindful and strong on your new dream journey.

Once you start remembering your dreams, the way in which you record them is also very important.

1. Each night, write the date at the top of the page of your dream journal, then write a few things about your day. These are called “Day Notes”. It doesn’t have to be detailed, just write about any of the highlights. This helps when you are working on the dream to see if there is a correlation between your waking life and your dream messages. In addition, you can also write a few lines about an issue you would like your dreams to help you better understand and resolve.

2. When you write the dream, write it in the present tense, not in the past tense. It is very helpful in showing how you really feel about things, and it helps us to see the dream itself more clearly.

3. Describe any feelings or emotions you felt in the dream. Make the dream a very real explanation of how you felt in it. If you were scared, yet felt a strong inner strength, write it that way. If you were happy, but apprehensive, state that. The feelings are very important.

4. Write the details of the dream as best you can. Maybe you see an animal that is very unique or different. Write down what makes the image different, including colors, smells, sounds or whatever comes to mind. Incorporate all the senses in your description. Include the landscape in which the dream takes place; was it the desert or the ocean, a city or a park, your childhood home or an office.

I am sure that once you start giving extra attention to your dreams, you will find them to be most insightful and a guiding force in your everyday life.

Best wishes on your new inner journey, and good dreaming!

Bambi Corso
Law of Attraction Life Coach and Certified DreamTender

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